Wife is Menstruating; The Prohibited and the Permitted ~ Hi all readers! In a number of previous articles, I have explained, that Muslim women who are menstruating should not have sex. The meaning is, the husband also cannot force him to have sex. But sexual desire often appears suddenly. In such circumstances, what can they both do and what should they not do? What are the teachings of Islam about that?
As always, before I speak further, I will quote the two hadith that are specifically related to our discussion. Pay attention!
Hadith About Wife Who Is Menstruating
The hadith about wife who is menstruating that I mean is as follows:
عَنْ أَنَسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ، أَنَّ الْيَهُوْدَ كَانَتْ إِذَا حَاضَتْ الْمَرْأَةُ لَمْ يُؤَاكِلُوْهَا ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : اِصْنَعُوْا كُلَّ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا النِّكَاحَ . رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ
From Anas radliyallaahu ‘anhu, that if someone’s wife from the Yahud tribe is menstruating, then she will not eat with her. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,” Do everything except sex. “The hadith is narrated by Muslim.
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ ؛ كَانَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَأْمُرُنِيْ فَأَتَّزِرُ ، فَيُبَاشِرُنِيْ وَأَنَا حَائِضٌ . مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ
From Aisha radliyallaahu ‘anhaa, she said, “The Messenger of Allah sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam told me to wear a sarong. He then touched me and I was menstruating.” The hadith was narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
All readers! If we understand the two hadiths above, of course we now know, that what is forbidden is to have sex, while what is permitted is activity other than inserting the penis into the vagina; foreplay. Here is the answer to the two questions above.
There are several important things related to the two hadith above that we need to know;
One; The two hadiths above explain that a married couple may not have sex if the wife is menstruating.