Hi readers! Do you want to know the definition of halal before marriage? Do you want to know about the Quran which explains what is halal before marriage? Do you want to know about the hadiths that explain halal before marriage? If your answer is “Yes”, congratulations! Now you are reading the right article. Why is that? The answer is because in this article I will explain it all. So, you have to read this article to the end!
Definition of Halal Before Marriage
Before I explain the definition of halal before marriage, I want to say that in fact, the discussion about this is related to the association between men and women who are not Mahrams. What is meant by Mahram is a man and a woman who cannot marry, such as a boy who cannot marry his mother, aunt, sister, daughter of his brother, daughter of his sister, and so on. I have explained it all in the previous articles.
So, what is meant by halal before marriage is the things that are allowed to be done by men and women who are getting married. Of course, not everything is allowed. If they did, they would sin. We can find an explanation of that in the Quranic verse and several hadiths which I will explain in a moment.
Quran on Halal Before Marriage
As for the verses of the Koran which in general describe halal before marriage, and specifically about the association between men and women in accordance with Islamic teachings, are as follows;
قُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ يَغُضُّواْ مِنۡ أَبۡصَٰرِهِمۡ وَيَحۡفَظُواْ فُرُوجَهُمۡۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزۡكَىٰ لَهُمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرُۢ بِمَا يَصۡنَعُونَ ٣٠
Say to the believing men that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. (An-Nur ; 30).
Readers all! If we have read the Quran above, then we can conclude that all Muslims, whether male or female, are required to take care of their eyes and vital organs. The point is that they have to keep their eyes so they don’t see things that are forbidden in Islam, such as seeing bad things and seeing other people who are not Mahram. This is the basic argument about good association according to Islam.
As for what it means that Muslims must take care of their vital organs is that they are not allowed to commit adultery (zina) or sex before marriage.
Hadiths on Halal Before Marriage
In fact, there are many traditions that explain halal before marriage. Of course, I will not quote all of them. In this article I will only quote three. The three hadiths that I mean are as follows;
عَنْ حَمَنَةَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ قَالَتْ : كُنْتُ أُسْتَحَاضُ حَيْضَةً كَبِيْرَةً شَدِيْدَةً . فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَسْتَفْتِيْهِ ، فَقَالَ ؛ إِنَّمَا هِيَ رَكْضَةٌ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ ، فَتَحَيِّضِيْ سِتَّةَ أَيَّامٍ أَوْ سَبْعَةَ أَيَّامٍ ثُمَّ اِغْتَسِلِيْ ، فَإِذَا اِسْتَنْقَأْتِ فَصَلِّيْ أَرْبَعَةً وَعِشْرِيْنَ أَوْ ثَلَاثَةً وَعِشْرِيْنَ وَصُوْمِيْ وَصَلِّيْ ، فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يُجْزِئُكِ ، وَكَذَلِكَ فَافْعَلِيْ كُلَّ شَهْرٍ كَمَا تَحِيْضُ النِّسَاءُ ، فَإِنْ نَوَيْتِ عَلَى أَنْ تُؤَخَّرِيْ الظُّهْرَ وَتُعَجَّلِيْ الْعَصْرَ ، ثُمَّ تَغْتَسِلِيْ حِيْنَ تَطْهُرِيْنَ ، وَتُصُلِّيْ الظُّهْرَ واَلْعَصْرَ جَمِيْعًا ، ثُمَّ تُؤَخَّرِيْنَ الْمَغْرِبَ وَتُعَجِّلِيْنَ الْعِشَاءَ ، ثُمَّ تَغْتَسْلِيْنَ وَتَجْمَعِيْنَ بَيْنَ الصَّلَاتَيْنِ ؟ فَافْعَلِيْ ، وَتَغْتَسِلِيْنَ مَعَ الصُّبْحِ وَتُصَلِّيْنَ ، قَالَ : وَهُوْ أَعْجَبُ الْأَمْرَيْنِ إِلَيَّ . رَوَاهُ الْخَمْسَةُ إِلَّا النَّسَائِيُّ
From Hamanah bint Jahsy, she said, “I experienced extraordinary istihadhah. I then came to the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam to ask for an explanation from him. He then said, “Indeed it is an encouragement from Satan. Make a period for six or seven days, then take a bath! If you are clean, then pray twenty-four times or twenty-three times, fast and pray! Surely that is enough for you. Likewise, also do what is usually done by women who are menstruating. If you intend to end the Dhuhr prayer and prioritize the Asr prayer, then you take a shower until you are holy, then you pray the Dhuhr and Asr together, then you end the Maghrib prayer and put the Isha prayer first, then you take a shower and collect two prayers? Then take a bath at prayer and pray! “He said,” That is one of the two things that amazes me the most.” The hadith is narrated by five people except an-Nasa’i (Ahmad, Abu Daud, at-Tirmidhi, and Ibn Majah).
عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا : كَانَ الْفَضْلُ بْنُ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ رَدِيْفَ رَسُوْلَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ . فَجَاءَتْ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ خَثْعَم فَجَعَلَ الْفَضْلُ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهَا وَتَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهِ , وَجَعَلَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَصْرِفُ وَجْهَ الْفَضْلِ إِلَى الشِّقِّ الْآخَرِ , فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُوْلَ اللهِ , إِنَّ فَرِيْضَةَ اللهِ عَلَى عِبَادِهِ فِيْ الْحَجِّ , أَدْرَكْتُ أَبِيْ شَيْخًا كَبِيْرًا لَايَثْبُتُ عَلَى الرَّاحِلَةِ : أَفَأَحُجُّ عَنْهُ ؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ . وَذَلِكَ فِيْ حَجِّ الْوَدَاعِ . مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ
From Ibn Abbas radliyallahu anhuma, “Al-Fadl bin Abbas radliyallahu anhu once followed the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Then a woman from Khats’am came. Al-Fadl then saw her, and she saw him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then turned al-Fadl’s face in the other direction. The woman then said, “O Messenger of Allah! Indeed, the obligation that Allah has given to His servants is Hajj. I knew that my father was very old. He is unable to travel; Can I do Hajj for him? He replied, “Yes.” It happened to the al-Wada Hajj (farewell hajj).” The hadith is narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ امْرَأَةً مِنْ جُهَيْنَةَ جَاءَتْ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَتْ : إِنَّ أُمِّيْ نَذَرَتْ أَنْ تَحُجَّ فَلَمْ تَحُجَّ حَتَّى مَاتَتْ , أَفَأَحُجُّ عَنْهَا ؟ قَالَ : نَعَمْ , حُجِّيْ عَنْهَا , أَرَأَيْتِ إِنْ كَانَ عَلَى أُمُّكِ دَيْنٌ أَكُنْتِ قَاضِيَتَهُ ؟ أُقْضُوْا اللهَ فَاللهُ أَحَقُّ بِالْوَفَاءِ . رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ
From Ibn Abbas radliyallahu, that a woman from Juhainah came to the Prophet (Muhammad) sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said, “Indeed my mother has promised to perform the Hajj, but she has not performed Hajj until she dies. Do I have to make the pilgrimage to replace her?” He said, “Yes. Do Hajj for her! Don’t you see, if your mother has a debt, then you will pay it? Pay promises to God. (Promise to) Allah must be done more.” The hadith is narrated by al-Bukhari.
Readers all! It is true, the three hadiths that I quoted above do not specifically describe halal before marriage. The first hadith describes Istihadhah. Meanwhile, the second hadith and the third hadith describe Hajj. However, if we are more serious about reading the three hadiths above, then we will understand that the three hadiths also explain the association between men and women that is allowed in Islam.
If we observe the editorial of the three hadiths above, then we know that the three hadiths above explain that there were Muslim women who asked the Prophet Muhammad (a male Muslim). The Muslim women who ask are not his wife and not his Mahram. So, we can conclude that men and women who are not married and not Mahram may talk to each other about important matters, such as studying, social activities, and so on. In my opinion, it is all halal before marriage.
Now, after I have explained some of the basic things above, I would like to conclude that the things that are permissible (halal) before marriage are as follows;
“All things that are good and important according to Islam, such as meeting each other for very important matters, such as social activities, studying, medical treatment, and so on.”
But what we have to understand here is that if these activities can generate libido, then each person, whether male or female, must immediately determine his attitude to avoid things that are prohibited, such as adultery and so on.
Readers all! That is a brief explanation of halal before marriage or things that are allowed before Muslim men and Muslim women marry in Islam. Do you guys understand? If you have any questions, please ask!
I think that’s all for this article. May be useful. Amen!
See you again in the next article!