Dowry in Islam and How Much Dowry Should I Ask For

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Hi all readers! Are you looking for an explanation of “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for”? If your answer is “Yes”, congratulations! Now you are reading the right article. Why? Because that is what I will explain in this article. As Muslims, we must understand that. That’s why I wrote this article. So, you should read it to the end!

Specifically, there are twelve important points about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain in this article. The twelve important things I mean are as follows:

  1. What Is Dowry in Islam?
  2. Who Gets Dowry?
  3. Types of Dowry in Islam.
  4. Examples of Dowry in Islam.
  5. Is Dowry a Sunnah?
  6. How Does Dowry Work in Islam?
  7. What Is the Reason for Dowry?
  8. Minimum Dowry in Islam.
  9. How to Calculate Dowry in Islam?
  10. How Much Dowry Should I Ask For?
  11. When is Dowry paid?
  12. What Did the Prophet Muhammad Say About Dowry?

What Is Dowry in Islam?

The first important thing about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” that I will explain now is “what is dowry in Islam?”. I want you to understand that because that is the most basic thing about this discussion that must be well understood.

Before I explain “what is dowry in Islam?”, firstly, I want to say that “dowry” in Arabic called mahr. Mahr is an Arabic term. The writing is الْمَهْرُ. Dowry has another term. The term is Sadaq. The writing is الصَّدَاقُ.

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In general, we can understand that dowry is a dowry. Specifically, we can find an explanation of “what is dowry in Islam?” in the explanation below (meaning dowry in Islam):

الصَّدَاقُ أَوِ الْمَهْرُ فِيْ الْفِقْهِ الْإِسْلَامِيُّ هُوَ : مَا يَدْفَعُهُ الزَّوْجُ لِزَوْجَتِهِ بِعَقْدِ الزَّوَاجِ مُعَجَّلاً أَوْ مُؤَجَّلاً

Shadaq or Dowry in Islamic law is something that a husband gives to his wife because of the marriage contract in cash (directly) or in installments.

All readers! If we understand the meaning of dowry in Islam as explained in the two paragraphs above, then we can conclude that dowry is something that a husband gives to his wife during the marriage contract. Something that can be in the form of objects, such as houses, money, cars, clothes and so on, or other things that a wife wants, such as if a wife wants her husband to read the Quran as dowry, and so on. There are many important things about it which I will explain in the next few paragraphs.

That is a brief explanation of “what is dowry in Islam?”. As Muslims, we must understand that.

Who Gets Dowry?

The second important point about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is “who gets dowry?”. I want you to understand that because it is one of the important things about dowry in Islam that some Muslims don’t understand very well.

In the previous few paragraphs, I have explained the meaning of dowry in Islam. If we understand that, then we can conclude that the person who must give the dowry is a husband, while the person who must receive the “dowry” is a wife.

So, if you ask me, “who gets dowry?”, then, the answer is a wife; The wife is the person who gets the dowry from her husband when it is because of the marriage contract or because they are both married.

That’s a brief explanation of “who gets dowry?”. As Muslims, we must understand that.

Types of Dowry in Islam

The third important point about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is types of dowry in Islam. I want you to understand that because it is one of those things that some Muslims don’t understand very well.

In the discussion about “what is dowry in Islam?” I have explained that dowry is something that a husband gives to his wife because of the marriage contract in cash (directly) or indirectly (in installments). So, we can conclude that there are “two types of dowry in Islam”:

One: dowry given in cash or in person.

What is meant by dowry given in cash or directly is something that is directly given by the husband to his wife right after the marriage contract. This type of dowry is a common type of dowry. The point is that many Muslims do that. I think we all understand that. So, I won’t explain much about it here.

Two: dowry given in installments or indirectly.

What is meant by dowry given in installments or indirectly is dowry given by a husband to his wife in installments or indirectly. There are many things that cause a husband to not be able to give “dowry” to his wife directly, such as the husband has not been able to do it, because it was an agreement between the two of them, and so on.

That is a brief explanation of the types of dowry in Islam. As Muslims, we must understand that.

Examples of Dowry in Islam

The fourth important point about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is examples of dowry in Islam. I want you to understand that because some Muslims don’t understand it very well.

In the previous few paragraphs, I have explained that dowry is something that a husband gives to his wife. It can be an object or something the husband must do. So, in general terms, the examples of dowry in Islam are as follows:

One: dowry in the form of an object.

I think we all understand an example of a dowry in the form of an object. It can be gold, cars, houses, money, insurance, clothes, shoes, and so on. So, if the wife asks for it and the husband is able to give it to her, then the husband must give it as dowry.

Two: dowry which is something that must be done.

Meanwhile, an example of a dowry in the form of something that must be done is something the husband must do as a dowry for his wife. Of course, it must be the request of the wife. One common example of dowry in the form of something to be done is reading the Quran.

That is a brief explanation of examples of dowry in Islam. As Muslims, we must understand that.

Is Dowry a Sunnah?

The fifth important thing about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is “is dowry sunnah?”. I want you to understand that because it is one of the important questions about “dowry in Islam” that some Muslims don’t understand very well.

Before I explain the specific answer to this question (is dowry a sunnah?”, I would like to quote a verse from the Quran about dowry in Islam. Take a look at the Quranic verse below:

وَاٰتُوا النِّسَاۤءَ صَدُقٰتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً ۗ فَاِنْ طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَنْ شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوْهُ هَنِيْۤـًٔا مَّرِيْۤـًٔا

And give the women [upon marriage] their [bridal] gifts graciously. But if they give up willingly to you anything of it, then take it in satisfaction and ease. (An-Nisa [4]; 4).

All readers! If we understand the Quranic verse above, then we can conclude that dowry in Islam is something that a husband should give to his wife. In other words, dowry is not a sunnah in Islam.

That is a brief explanation of “is dowry a sunnah?”. As Muslims, we must understand that.

How Does Dowry Work in Islam?

The sixth important thing about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is “how does dowry work in Islam?”. I want you to understand that because that is one of the important things about our discussion.

If we read some Islamic legal literature on dowry, then we will understand that “dowry is not the price of women”. So, “dowry is not something a husband uses to buy his wife”.

In Islam, dowry is something that a husband must give to his wife as a tribute to his wife because she is willing to marry him. Again, “dowry is not something that can be used to buy a wife”.

That is a brief explanation of “how does the dowry work in Islam?”. As Muslims, we must understand that.

What Is the Reason for Dowry?

The seventh important point about “dowry in Islam and how much dowry should I ask for” which I will explain now is “what is the reason for dowry?”. Specifically, this discussion is a discussion of “why is dowry important in marriage in Islam?”

There are two important things you should understand:

One: dowry is not one of the pillars of marriage in Islam.

In Islam, there are five pillars of marriage: the man to be married, the woman to be married, the wali (the man from the family of the woman who is to be married who will marry her), two witnesses, ijab-qabul.

Two: Dowry is not a condition of marriage in Islam.

In general, the conditions for marriage in Islam are Muslim (male and female to be married are two Muslims), not dowryam, not performing Hajj, and not being forced.

Now, “what is the reason for dowry or why is dowry important in marriage in Islam?”

The only answer is because dowry or giving dowry to the wife is the husband’s obligation as explained in the Quran which I have quoted. That is the reason for dowry and why it is important in marriage in Islam.

That’s a brief explanation of “”what is the reason for dowry?”. As Muslims, we must understand that.

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